| Flirting Conversation | | | | top of mind, review them daily or weekly. |
| Here's realistic advice for meeting women (or men). | | | | Tip #2. Follow-up your compliment with a question |
| You're impending for an elevator or you're squeezin' | | | | Ask a question that calls for an explanation, not a |
| the Charmin at the market when you spot someone | | | | short, pat answer. The meatier the question, the |
| intriguing. You break the ice with a smile. Even a slight | | | | better. For example: |
| chin or eyebrow lift can get his or her attention. Next | | | | * Too pat: "Great shoes! Where did you get them?" |
| comes the fun (or scary) part: saying something. | | | | will do when you can't think of anything else to say. |
| | | | * Better: "Great running shoes. There are so many |
| Tip #1. Compliment someone | | | | styles and brands. How do you decide which shoes |
| Compliments pack a double whammy: | | | | to buy?" Flirting Conversation |
| * Everyone loves sincere compliments. They get | | | | * Too pat: "That's a flattering color on you. Did you |
| people's attention and create a receptive mood for | | | | have your colors done?" |
| conversation. | | | | * Better: "That's a flattering style on you. How did |
| * Second, when you're looking for ways to pay a | | | | you learn to dress so well?" (A terrific follow-up to |
| compliment, you're looking for the good in - or on - | | | | that is "What other talents do you have?" |
| someone else. That takes your focus off yourself | | | | * Too pat: "You look like a creative person. Are you |
| and your rating on the confidence-o-meter and puts | | | | an artist?" |
| it where it belongs: on the person you want to talk | | | | * Better: "You look like a creative person. How do |
| to. | | | | you express your artistic flair?" |
| Obvious items to mention include clothing, | | | | * A little too pat: "Love your ring/watch/shirt. Was it |
| accessories, and shoes. On a more personal level, | | | | a gift?" |
| consider haircuts, smiles, fitness, and body art. | | | | * Better: "Your ring is unusual. Does it have a story?" |
| For example, | | | | [This is one of my favorite follow-up questions.] |
| * "Great shoes!" | | | | * Too pat: "You look fit. Do you work out?" |
| * "Love your briefcase/purse/necklace/earrings | | | | * Better: "You look fit. Tell me how you stay that |
| blouse color...." | | | | way." |
| * "What an unusual/striking/colorful/attractive | | | | If you can't think of a follow-up conversation |
| interesting/unique bracelet!" | | | | question, that's okay. Give yourself points for |
| Flirting Conversation | | | | breaking the ice. Be a good coach and tell yourself |
| Bonus tip: | | | | "You'll do better next time." Start taking actions to |
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